Should I be offended by what my sister said?
Okay, my mom and I get along very well, and today I was having a conversation with her. My sister was there because she came home to visit for a couple hours. Anyways, I am currently 27 weeks pregnant, and I love designers. I want to buy my baby designer clothing, because I do not think it’s right to buy myself all these nice clothes and then go buy my baby’s clothes at walmart. I bought a lot of her clothes at marshall’s, because I know she’s going to grow extremely fast and I don’t want to overpay. Anyways, i’m graduating from high school in August, and my parents are going to give me money for my graduation present. Once I told my mom that I wanted a gucci diaper bag, my sister started screaming and freaking out. She told me that I need to start thinking about my baby, that I am being naive, and I need to grow up. Then she said I need to go into a mental hospital, and that I am just like my mom. (my mom is bipolar, and a paranoid scizofrenic). I didn’t know what to say to that, especially because my sister is the one who is very emotionally unstable and has been showing all of the symptoms that my mom showed when she would start acting up. Then, she finally stopped yelling at me once my cousin called her. As soon as she called, she went into the garage to talk about me, she though I couldn’t hear her, but I heard her clearly. She started saying how I wanted a gucci diaper bag, and then I heard my sister say "Omg, that’s mean!", then she said "Yeah, I told her she needs to go into a mental hospital." Before I got pregnant, I had a problem of always letting what everyone says get to me; and I honestly thought I got over that, but this really got on my nerves. My cousin and I don’t get along very well, although we used to be best friends. She would get pissed every time my parents would buy me something expensive. She told me that since I wear designers I have to values or morals. Although I know that doesn’t make any sense, I still feel so stupid for wanting to prove her wrong so badly. Anyways, I do very well in school, I have a 4.0 gpa, plan on going to college right after high school, and I think I deserve to buy what I want with my graduation money, I deserve it. It’s not like I am taking anything away from my baby, it’s simply a graduation gift. Anyways, i’m just wondering, why do I feel so upset about my sister’s and cousin’s words?
You feel so upset because they are your family, and even if you don’t get along well, you love them. Even the smallest rude remark can hurt someone’s feelings badly if it comes from a family member. I agree with you. It is YOUR money, so why not do stuff with it. just ignore them, but remember, you are going to want money for diapers and wipes, etc. so I suggest you don’t spend too much money on clothes.
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You feel upset because they were mean with the way they said things and you’re pregnant so mood swings. However I agree with them. That money could be used for something so much more productive. Your kid will cost thousands of dollars, and yet you want a Gucci bag.
I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO WHAT YOU WANT WITH YOUR GRAD MONEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
because truely u r very emotional your pregnate so itz very hard not too but ur right tho if shez showing all the signs dnt pay attetion to it try to focus on your baby and your life dnt try to bother about what ur baby wears be u n do wat u want dnt let n e one get 2 u
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this is to long, but u shouldnt really care what ur sister think. Love her thats all u suppose to do!
I don’t know if I can give the best advice on this, but In my opinion, there’s nothing so horribly wrong with wanting a Gucci diaper bag. Sure there are other things you could ask for, like something for the baby or a coffee maker or something, but if you want the bag and your parents said you could choose, than why not?? Just because you’re going to be a mom that doesn’t mean can never buy anything for yourself ever again! You’re going to be a mom which is super cool and I see nothing wrong with having fun with accessories!
Honestly, right now you have WAY bigger problems to worry about than worrying about what your sister thinks about you wanting a Gucci Diaper bag. Your in high school and pregnant?! I think it’s okay for you to want a Gucci diaper bag BUT is it a smart thing to buy when you have bigger responsibilities ahead…probably not.
I was a teenage mom myself so I’m not judging you by any means. I was 18 when my son was born; I had to drop out of college that my parents were paying for and had to get a job to support myself and my son. I’m 29 now, married (not to my sons father) and have a successful career and live a great life BUT it’s been a very long, hard road for me.
You may not realize this yet but once your baby is born your life no longer belongs to you. You’ll find out really quickly that all the freedoms you enjoy and maybe some of the luxuries you have aren’t going to come as easily because whatever money that used to be spent on you, will now be spent on things for the baby. Sounds like you’re going to be living with your parents and relying on them to support you and your child since you’ll be going to college. Great if you can continue your education but the smart thing to do would be to save your graduation money for a rainy day instead of blowing it on something you don’t really need.
Being a mother let alone a teenage mother will be hardest job you ever have. Kids your age aren’t prepared to deal with being a parent and whatever lies ahead but hopefully you’ll do whatever you need to do to be a good mother and be a responsible parent. Having children is all about sacrificing what YOU want and doing what is best for your child. It’s best that you start learning and practicing that now because you’ll find out really quickly that it’s no longer about you anymore once your baby is here. Good luck!